Thanks Barry for that, and sorry you had to go through the situation. My uncle also has no conception of why he is there, or at least the real reason ( because he is ill) he thinks we have put him there to siphon off his cash, which is quite frankly ridiculous. According to staff, his moods have been swinging to a violent side a bit now so things need to be done.
Things have moved on a lot since I last posted, he got caught naked in a female residents bed one night, of course he had to be transferred to a more secure part of the care home , together with 24 hour care. This sadly will exceed the budget constraints of the family as this sort of care is on top of the rather large weekly bill for what is classed as 'normal' care.
It's quite plainly harder on the families left having to deal with this, as he has no clue he is behaving like this.
And yes, as cruel as this may sound, I do hope he 'goes' sooner than later, for everyone's sake.
Dreadful thing to say I know, but until you have seen it and had close dealings you can't make judgements .