Sad Day.

[Norman Verona]

My daughter always phones us on Sunday nights. Call takes two hours.

HM just got a Facebook PM from her that she wasn't phoning tonight as they have decided to take the cat, Jay to the vet and have her put down. Jay is over 20 now and Tanya got her when she still lived at home before setting up home with Paul. Jay is now too old and infirm to do much on her own and sits there crying most of the day.

She's been a part of my daughters life for over 20 of her 39 years. It must be a wrench and we have both shed a tear about it.

[SteveD]

jeez not a nice thing to do but for the best by the sounds of it norm

we have had jack (staffy) for 11 years and he's like a bleedin baby,infact worse than a baby and i dread the day when we loose him, i know i'll be in pieces

[Terry Everall]

Yes

Having to put animals or pets to sleep aint easy but they dont suffer as much as if you didnt take that decision for their good

Still difficult time though

[pistonbroke]

no words to express the sadness of departed friends . just console youself in the fact they enjoyed a wonderful life together , sadly nothing lasts for ever

[Norman Verona]

Thanks for kind words, I'll pass them on next week when she's had time to recover. For the last 5 years Tanya and Paul have lived around the cat's requirements and have not left her alone for more than daylight hours. Jay has always been on her own during the day so is used to it. Lately Tanya has not had a full nights sleep as Jay starts crying when she needs to go to the toilet.

I think this is affecting me as much as it is Tanya and Paul. HM was in tears when she read the PM.

[Man On The Clapham Omnibus]

Sorry to hear this Norman. We have had a cat or five more most of the four decades we've been together, and our daughter has too.

[CL290005]

Norm

there is no doubt that your daughter has done the right thing, it always happens when a pet is truly part of the family you keep trying to keep them going then something happens and you know the time has come. Over time you realize you perhaps could have done it that bit earlier but its the bond you do not want to break. Time is a great healer and over 20 years you will have great memories, I know this was the case for me when I had my pet dog and friend put down at the age of 17.

[Dave Eastwood (Gadgetman) - Club Chairman]

A lot of wise words, it's hard to put our fury friends first and do the right thing by them when we must break our own hearts to do it.

My last cat was seventeen when he died, and had been ill for a few years. Loosing him was very hard, I still miss him. It was a good few years before I could face getting another, but the furry terror currently bouncing round the room now has his own place in my heart.

It'll be hard going, but time does allow the sadness to fade if you let it, and the happy memory to remain.

[alexander72]

chin up Norm and HM - sad news but all you can do is remember the 20 years of feline companionship.... All the best, James and Debbie and all the kids

[FILFAN]

Sorry for the sad news

Losing little friends is never nice

[Fangi0]

Part of the kindness we can show for our pets is to know when their time is up and to look at a life complete.

[V8grunt]

It's not very nice when they are taken early either.

Took both of our Cats out to France when we moved, Garfers was 6 1/2 kilo, he could push the front off the cat box with sheer power, His mother was ferile! He used to crap on the vets table tho! You respected him.... He came for love when he wanted it! No tickles for Garfers unless he wanted it! Yet I could play ball with him, Kicking a crushed up peice of alluminium foil out of the conservatory on to the lawn, He would chase after it and bring it back and drop it at my feet for another go!

His "Twin" brother Tommily was as soft as a brush, you could trust him to look after baby chicks,

Garfers spent only one night in our new house in France, then disappeard, Tommily was with us for 8 months, They used to put poisoned meat out at the local village hall to keep the rats down, He loved raw meat,

Poor Tommily died in front of us after 2 hours of agony!

He is buried in the garden of my old house in France,

His death upset my wife so much, she asked to go back to England.

Feel for you Norman

xx

[7sRWild]

So sorry to hear that Norm, so many have said the right things. Give your girl our best wishes.Always a tough thing to do but it really is an act of kindness. Lindas daughter will be doing the same thing with her cat Veronica,, they have been best friends for 15 years. Our hearts are with you.

[Norman Verona]

Thanks all for the kind support. The deed was done at 10:15 this morning. Tanya says she fought all the way. We haven't spoken to Tan yet but have sent her a pm that she should ring when she feels able to talk to us.

[Captain Colonial]

Was away yesterday and only just picked up on this. Very sorry for all concerned, any pet lover knows only too painfully the feelings involved. It's nice that we have so many people in here that feel the same way and we can turn to in these circumstances. They do become very much a part of one's family and the loss is very much a bereavement. I find it bitterly ironic that we can give a dignified passing to our animals and pets, but we don't extend that to the humans in our lives who sometimes suffer long and painful deaths from incurable illnesses. I hope in due course she gets another pet - I remember our vet saying to us when we lost a treasured pet many years ago that the best memorial you can give to an animal you loved was to give another one a loving home. She was right.

All my best,

Scott