Something for the Westy ladies

[Pepi]

It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes  

harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did  

when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try not to yell.

Let me relate how I handle the situation.

When I got laid off from my consulting job and took "early retirement" in

April, it became necessary for Nancy to get a full-time job, both for extra

income and for health benefits that we need. It was shortly after she

started working that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age.

I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she

gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost

always says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts

supper. I try not to yell, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake  

me when she finally does get supper on the table. She used to do the  

dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to  

sit on the table for several hours after supper.

I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they

aren't cleaning themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it does seem

to help her get them done before she goes to bed.

Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly.

Our washer and dryer are in the basement. Sometimes she says she  

just can't make another trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue  

of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry the next evening I am  

willing to overlook it.

Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday

lodge meeting or to Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club or to Tuesday's

or Thursday's bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the

next evening to do the ironing. This gives her little more time to do some  

of those odds and ends things like shampooing the dog, vacuuming or dusting.

Also, if I have had a really good day fishing, this allows her to gut and

scale the fish at a more leisurely pace.  Nancy is starting to complain  

a little occasionally. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her  

to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. In spite of her  

complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch  

it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so  

much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then  

wouldn't hurt her any, if you know what I mean.

When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest

periods She had to take a break when she was only half finished  

mowing the yard. I try not to embarrass her when she needs these  

little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass  

of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I tell her that  

as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make  

one for me and take her break by the hammock so she can talk  

with me until I fall asleep.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Nancy

on a daily basis. I'm not saying that the ability to show this much

consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it

impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating women  

can become as they get older. However, guys, even if you just yell  

at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider  

that writing it was worthwhile.

Signed,

Bob

Oh and as a side note, since I know these people.....  

Bob's funeral was Saturday, January 25th.  Nancy was  

acquitted Monday, January 27th.

Do you think its time I got my coat?