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Sorry to hear that Dave. Hope you're back on track soon!

 

As you said, the 'domino rally' effect is so surprising and crippling. It takes practice, but always trying to be aware of my emotions rather than just plouging on seems to help - sometimes I catch myself starting the spiral and that in itself is enough to pull away just for a few minutes, or even seconds, and prevent the 'slide'.

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Sadly, it was late, alcohol had been well, ahem, consumed, and got caught completely out of the blue with a simple, harmless “campfire questions” type game.

 

Before you know it it’s that instant slam in the guts whammy of the fight or flight reflex cutting in, or in this case a complete mental freeze like a rabbit  in the car headlights.

 

Trouble is, when suddenly you find your brain has just jumped back to some prehistoric mode, it’s very difficult to explain why you appear to have instantly turned into a bit of a d**k, which of course then just piles embarrassment into the mix, and makes it worse!

 

Been trying to work up to apologise  to those who probably thought I’d gone mad, or was just being an awkward ****, but daft as it sounds, it’s still to raw; that horrible, hot feeling of shame just boils back up and takes control!

 

No matter how hard it is to actually practice what you preach though, I can only say the same thing as others have, talk, find someone, sometimes it’s easier if you don’t really know them, there are lots of services out there, and talk.

 

To that end, I can’t promise an expert ear, but if all you need is an ear to listen, my contact details are all over my posts, just reach out, pm, email, mobile, it doesn’t matter.

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On 15/08/2019 at 16:43, AdamR said:

It still amazes and frustrates me how quickly things can go from good to not so good, having had a pretty decent weekend and then being in a mess this week, but I guess that's the nature of the beast.

 

Adam what do you do work wise? Do you find it helps to focus/obsess with work to distract from negative thoughts - or does work stress make things worse?

 

I only ask as a friend of mine really throws himself into his work (he's an artist) but the downside is there is usually a bigger crash at the end of the cycle 😞 

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4 hours ago, MrPid said:

but the downside is there is usually a bigger crash at the end of the cycle 😞 

Living that one right now.  Lost my confidence, feeling all those emotions we have ambled through.. Frustratingly my eyes keep leaking unbidden and for no reason... Now do I go back on my meds or try... Yet again.. To rise above it.  My default is to run away and already mentally planning to escape in my motor home. This means leaving the Westfield behind which upsets me.  A one way ticket mid September is becoming a reality 

Actually EVERYTHING upsets me..  

 

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Ps. I don't usually communicate when I'm having a low episode. Perhaps just to demonstrate my support for others is based on my own reality. 

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A change of scene/perspective can certainly help, but it's so hard to run away from yourself. (Without resorting to chemistry/alcohol, at least).

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3 hours ago, Dave Eastwood (Gadgetman) - Club Secretary said:

it's so hard to run away from yourself. 

 

I haven't yet found another solution. It's not for the lack of effort. 

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It is hard to read this thread because I know just how some of you will feel. And to me this is the huge problem with the way the NHS is now. When you are low you need help now, but instead you will try to get an appointment with your GP, who will usually chuck meds at you in the hope that in a few weeks time it will work. Then make an appointment to see a specialist by which time you may feel better.

 

If you were stinking rich you would immediately see someone privately who understands more about the issues than others do and may focus thought quicker but even the wealthiest suffer but get help quicker. 

 

There still is a lack of understanding on mental health, most people will understand reading Jude's story  understand why her problems are not easy to deal with, but Adam, successful Mclaren owning business man they will struggle to make any sense of why and that will include some in the medical profession, hence the chuck pills at the issue approach.

 

I found using self hypnosis tapes and talking about my issues helped me, but no one can really know what works as we are all different, but one thing I know is trying to cope on your own is not the best way. What I also know is having people around you who are willing to listen is a great support to have, they cannot fix you but they can be a crutch just when you need it most.

 

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Just a quick check in. To say keep going everyone, you can get through this. 

 

I find that as the the clocks change, it gets darker and the weather is now really bad this has an enormous effect on me. I know this is likely to be SAD (seasonal affective disorder) but I find that not getting time away from the daily gring in the garage(no power) has the double blow. 

 

 

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Same here @syman84. I had a few really low weeks just anticipating winter, almost back on the meds. However I'm determined to get through winter without them. I have a SAD lamp which I sit in front of while eating breakfast every day. I am filling my days as much as I can. When it's dry out comes the wez for a quick blat ANYWHERE.

I dread Christmas, despite having grandchildren I find it excruciatingly painful without my husband. New year is worse!  However I am planning ahead for the first time in my life. So far so good. 

Clocks change tomorrow. That might be a game changer.. I recommend the SAD light, you need it now though. It definitely makes a difference. If I use it after 5 pm I can't sleep because of the effect it has.  Also keep warm.. Sounds weird but previously I have let myself get cold both in the house and outside. I get really miserable when I am cold and it stops me doing anything.  

Easy for me to be upbeat right now, I might feel crap in a week but I'm trying hard to beat depression this winter. 

 

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2 hours ago, syman84 said:

Just a quick check in. To say keep going everyone, you can get through this. 

 

I find that as the the clocks change, it gets darker and the weather is now really bad this has an enormous effect on me. I know this is likely to be SAD (seasonal affective disorder) but I find that not getting time away from the daily gring in the garage(no power) has the double blow. 

 

 


The door of the fortress of Rustytude (aka my garage) is always open :)

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  • 3 weeks later...

@Jude - The Mad Widow that's a pic worthy of submitting for the calendar, wow!

 

Such a lovely sunny day too, I'm not a fan of the winter months if I'm honest.

 

How is everyone, all ok...?

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32 minutes ago, Andy Banks - Chairman said:

How is everyone, all ok...?

For me, so far so good. Unable to take the wez out because of the floods but keeping myself very occupied. When I feel a drop in mood I just DO something! I'm working very hard to maintain a good place in my head. 

 

Hoping everyone else is managing OK? 

 

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@AdamR OMG you're a bl**** super hero!!! I thought I was doing OK but now I feel I need to accomplish more!!!

One think I have mastered.. Sitting and being at one with myself. I have started reading!! No one says life has to be hard... You are an awesome human! 

I relate to nearly everything you have said.. Except for the numerous accomplishments. Well you've inspired me... I just found a ukele I bought Brian.. Might give you a tune at Stoneleigh!!! 

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